Because most of us are children from ordinary families, the process of entering society means we at least mature ten years later than others.

Before the age of 20, our minds are basically in a confused state. The parents of poor families usually have a mindset of failure; they neither know how to make money nor understand human nature. They can't teach their children anything about competition in society; they only know to teach them that studying hard is the way out, and they believe that passing civil service exams is the ultimate goal. Children generally end up with linear thinking and binary reasoning.

In college, the first two or three years in society are basically like being a fool; it’s only after three years that one starts to become somewhat familiar with the rules of survival in society. At this time, parents will exhaust three generations of savings to help you bear the heavy debts of housing, cars, marriage, and children. If it's 30 years, it’s almost like being in debt for life.

This period between 20-30 years, which should have been a time of progress, passes in a muddled and half-understood passive arrangement. Things like IQ, emotional intelligence, eloquence, courage, psychological quality, cognition, and self-improvement, all are less important than "being like others." You lack the ability, awareness, and even the courage to think more and try more. If you are inherently lazy, then congratulations, in this state, you are at the bottom level, most likely living in hardship and blaming the world for your woes.

For those who are lucky, reaching 30-40 years old and encountering a benefactor's guidance, finding opportunities in the industry, or moving to a better environment, a very small number can break free from their shackles, explore upwards, and even welcome their own breakthroughs and leaps. But... where are so many benefactors, and who has such good fortune? Almost the vast majority are still trapped in their established circles, grinding away, limited by the destiny designed by others, desperately running under the pressure of real-life struggles.