#养老问题 How do you view

My husband and I were born in the 1960s, and due to the delayed retirement age, we cannot retire at the age of 60 to take care of my elderly mother who is around 83 or 84 years old and suffering from dementia. We sent her to my sister and brother-in-law's house for five or six years, but my brother-in-law often argues with my sister because the elderly woman with dementia loves to chatter and often forgets things. The good relationship they had as a couple has gradually deteriorated because of the elderly woman's situation, and ultimately they sent her back to the home of my working son. When the son goes to work, who will take care of the elderly? Hire someone? With such a meager salary, can I afford to hire someone without eating or drinking? Is that possible?

My eldest son is 23 years old and is an only child due to the national policy. With the delayed retirement policy, if my son retires at 65 or even later, I will be nearly 90 years old or over 90, an elderly person nearing the end of life, of course, assuming I can live to that age 😂. This means that during the lonely and slow-moving days before I reach that age of 90 (from 65 to 120 years old), my son will still be working, unable to enjoy family time, and there will be no one to bring me tea or water, and no one to care about my well-being. Even if there is someone, they will not be able to take care of me. Hiring someone? The wages for hired help are too high, and it’s not a long-term solution. Going to a nursing home brings even more problems, and one might die even faster—

The same applies to their next generation's responsibility for their elderly.

Is our elderly care not a problem?