No.13

What truly destroys children is not poverty, but the emotions of their parents.

Emotionally unstable parents are not nurturing; they are giving childhood high-interest loans.

They are burdening their children with a debt that may never be repaid in their lifetime.

1. Coercive Lending

When a parent loses emotional control and shouts hysterically at a child, they are essentially engaging in a form of coercive lending. Parents borrow the child's sense of safety and energy to calm their own moment of breakdown. The parents feel relieved, but the child is forced to bear the emotional debt. This is not love; it is blatant financial exploitation as the child has no right to refuse to sign.

2. Deadly Compounding Interest

This debt is referred to as high-interest loans because its interest is calculated on a compound basis. During childhood, the child is forced to learn to read emotions, please others, and suppress their true self to repay their parents' emotional debts. These survival strategies evolve into extreme inferiority, sensitivity, and an inability to form intimate relationships in adulthood. This is compounding interest; it takes the first half of life to heal childhood wounds and the second half to repay the character deficits accrued in childhood.

3. Emotional Bankruptcy Liquidation

When the debt accumulates to a certain extent, the child will experience emotional bankruptcy. This manifests in two ways: either complete numbness, becoming a hollow person, or a complete rebound, becoming a new high-interest lender to harm the next generation. This is the most terrifying aspect of intergenerational poverty—not the poverty of money, but the poverty of emotional capital.

4. Stop Lending

If you are a parent, please take a look at your family balance sheet. Are you depositing love and support into your child's emotional account, or are you crazily overdrawn on control and venting? Stop packaging your incompetence as 'I'm doing this for your own good.' Those who cannot control their own emotions do not deserve to have the next generation. Be a qualified investor, not a parasitic lender.